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Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP): What does it mean and how does it work?

Last update: May 24, 2017

Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) was originally invented by Richard Bandler and John Grinder in California in the 1970s. The creators behind this concept claim that there is a connection between our neurological processes, our language and our learned behaviors.

The inventors of neuro-linguistic programming chose three specialists: Fritz Perls, Virninia Satir and Milton Ericksson. Using various comparative studies, they found that these three people had special communication skills that enabled them to achieve extremely good results with their patients.

In this way, they went one step further and produced a set of tools that would later become known as Neuro-Linguistic Programming, or NLP for short.

“NLP is like the core physics of the brain. Physics deals with the nature of reality, with the nature of this world. NLP does the exact same thing for our minds. It enables us to look at things that drive the brain separately and to break them down into their individual components. "

Tony Robbins

It has already happened to all of us that we reacted in a certain way in a situation and then later perceived this inner voice within us, which made us aware that we actually had to say something different and in a different way should have responded.

But in reality it is the way we answer and think is already laid down in a kind of neurological map. It encrypts and stores the way we react to a particular situation. This map is made up of our past, present, and future, and it is with it that our beliefs, experiences, and learned behaviors are created.

The structures of our brain are so firmly fixed in us that we cannot simply influence them - at least not in our consciousness.

Our brain works on two different levels: the conscious (for logical thinking) and the subconscious (for automated functioning).

The conscious part of our mind is what is constantly awake. This part is responsible, for example, that we remember certain dates or the names of people. The subconscious part of our mind is the part of the brain that activates all of our behaviors, beliefs, values, etc. - all the things that we have learned and that determine the way we behave. This part of our brain plays a role when we drive, when we write an email, or when we open a window.

In order for the subconscious part of our brain to be able to "draw" something new on the map, it must act with a clear goal in mind, which starts with the question "I would like to?" related.

And that's exactly where the complicated part lies. Because we often don't really know what we actually want. We don't know how to further define our goals. To find out, we have to think about something that will really change our established behaviors in a certain situation - something that actually seems impossible.

"If you want to get new results, you shouldn't always do the same thing."

Albert Einstein

Questions that help us define our goals

Is it a positive goal?

For this programming to really work, we need to set a positive goal. So this goal cannot begin with "I don't want ...".

Is there any use to you?

Your goal must be something that you personally want to do and what depends on you and not on other people. For example: A high school diploma is a very common goal among young people. But this is not really her goal, but that of her parents. In addition, you have to be in control of what you do to achieve this goal - so it has to be in your hands. We can't set goals like: I want the weather to be good over the weekend. Because we don't have that sort of thing in our hands.

How can you be sure that you have achieved your goal?

Think about what it will be like when you get there and how you will feel about it. Imagine every action, every feeling that this moment will evoke in you, how it will slowly spread inside you, what taste it will leave on your tongue, what exactly your ears will perceive, how you will move, what you will do. In order to be able to check whether we have achieved our goal, it also makes sense to set smaller milestones. Then we can more easily determine whether we are achieving something or not. For example, if my goal is to find a new job, a short-term goal might be to look through the job advertisements and write a few applications in the next week.

Is your goal specific enough too?

You have to be very clear about what you want and what you don't. The more detailed your goal is, the easier it will be to take the individual steps that are necessary to achieve it. For example, if you just take the statement "I want to find a new job", that's not exactly very specific.

But if we define our goal more precisely and embellish it with details, then it becomes all the more clear which milestones we should set ourselves in order to achieve our long-term goal. For example, you could say something like: "On August 1st, 2017, I will be working in a company that works in the IT sector and my wages will be 2500 euros per month."

What resources do you need to make your goal a reality?

Think about the resources you already have and the ones you will need in general: Expertise, individual goals, financial resources or the help of other people.

Once you've set your goal, you have to take a look at your beliefs and values. What is it that is ingrained in you that can keep you from making your dreams come true? You have to change the negative belief structures in you that would otherwise become an obstacle on the way to your goal.

And one of the greatest obstacles that we will encounter in the path of making our dreams come true are the opinions of others. Remember that everyone has a different perspective. And in order to really understand the opinions of others, we have to put ourselves in their shoes.

And again and again you should be on your way to your goal visualize your dreams: Think about how they smell, what you will hear inside them, what you will touch and most of all what feelings you will feel in that moment of happiness when you finally get to the end.

And then: Make your dream a reality and make your goals a reality!

In order for the subconscious part of our mind to learn a new program with which we are able to turn our dreams into reality, it is necessary that it understands the reasons and motives behind them.

NLP - a learning process that takes place in 4 phases

  • Phase 1: subconscious state of ignorance - I don't know what I don't know.
  • Phase 2: conscious state of ignorance - I know what I don't know.
  • Phase 3: Conscious State of Knowledge - I know what I know.
  • Stage 4: subconscious state of knowledge - I don't know what I know.

To unlearn something, we have to go from step 4 to step 2. To learn something we have to get from step 2 to step 4.

Once the new program is learned, we will be able to use it in practice.

For this reason NLP helps us to develop new mental programs that can bring us relief in many areas of our life and who will help us to work on our goals and to turn our wishes and dreams into reality.

The greatest successes with NLP can be achieved in the areas of interpersonal relationships and in the world of work. In these two areas you can use NLP to train your own skills, to overcome obstacles that stand in your way, to resolve conflicts and to influence other people.

But above all gives you NLP tools with which you can train to react to the people around you. Then you learn to perceive them correctly and to take further steps in this way so that your dreams finally come true.