How do I relax with attractive women

Men's wishes for us women: Relax, girls

"You should shine through inner beauty"

Jan Delay, 33, musician, his current album is entitled "We children from the Soul train station"

I would like women to do without Jesus sandals, rubber dinghy lips, other cuts and Facebook excesses in the coming year.

They should shine through inner beauty and no longer assume that we men know what they mean when they say something that they actually mean very differently.

Daniel Bahr, 33, member of the FDP board

Please finally listen to us. Be patient if we need several attempts when parking. Talk to us men on the phone for a really long time. Go shopping with us in peace and quiet. And don't always have soccer on your mind.

Maxim Leo, 39, lives and works as a journalist in Berlin and most recently wrote the book "Keep your heart ready" (Karl Bessing Verlag)

My wish: Please remain women, even if you become mothers. I live in a neighborhood where many young mothers live. You can recognize them by the fact that they always wear bicycle helmets and backpacks and speak with a whiney commanding voice. In addition, they only have their children in view, instead of me, for example.

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"After I have prepared breakfast for her"

Christian Clerici, 44, TV presenter and COSMO columnist

To be able to wish for something from the world of women sounds like a trap that serves to experience our most urgent deficits in order to then crush us at the appropriate moment with deliberate refusal. But I don't fall for that and simply wish: nothing. Nothing but unbridled desire, love, affection, trust, money, cleverness, devotion, humor and a switch that can be used to temporarily shut down the whole system.

Patrice, 30, singer and songwriter, current album "Free-Patri-Ation"

She comes home after a tough day and a lot of work. I'm in bed reading a book after cleaning up the house and putting the prepared dinner in the oven. She secretly looks on my computer to see which site I last clicked on: A day later, a wonderful Maranello is in front of my door - but of course I only see it after I've prepared breakfast for her.

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"Please remain women, even if you become mothers"

Bora Dagtkin, 31, screenwriter, is working on the third season and on the novel of the successful RTL series "Doctor’s Diary" as well as on "Turkish for Beginners - The Film"

Since women are the top target group for TV series, I'm really happy to slowly get to know all the quirks. So do not be ashamed of weight neuroses, self-doubts, cell phone photo check-ups of party outfits, hysterical screeching while cutting lace or for the optimistic plan to educate machos in marriageable material.

All of this gives me work! Also, I will definitely not join the criticism of handbag fanatics. Spend four-digit amounts for THE bag as long as there is space for our car keys and parking garage cards - even if it takes four hours to dig them out again (“Oh, there's still an Easter egg in here, do you want that?”).

On the other hand, there is room for improvement: Please make a note of whether the fuel filler cap is on the left or right, do not try to type complex SMS in short red light phases with artificial fingernails, limit yourself to four scented candles per room, and how about the girlfriend style again ?

"I would like less Paris Hiltons and Heidi Klums"

Hannes Jaenicke, 49, actor

I would like more women in the banking industry (then the financial crisis would have failed), fewer Paris Hiltons and Heidi Klums, more Tilda Swintons and Michelle Obamas, more female resistance to diet madness and Mario Barth's 1970s schoolyard jokes. And as many good-humored, self-confident women as possible, on whom masculine demeanor and the dictates of the beauty industry ricochet off like water on a duck's buttocks. Happy New!

Jean-Remy von Matt, 57, co-owner of the advertising agency Jung von Matt

What I want from women is more pride in their actual age. The occasional obsession with youth is completely overlooked by men. Of course we are attracted to attractive women, but no one goes out in the evening with the resolution: “Today I'm talking to someone who looks younger.” When my wife turned 34, she was disappointed: “Now I'm older than Jesus.” She is now 40 and more attractive than ever - no end in sight.

Daniel Hope, 35, violinist. The new book “When may I clap?” (Rowohlt) and the CD “AIR. A Baroque Journey "

It would be great if: women no longer seduce me into wanting to understand them; when they find time to be conquered; when you stop mistaking men for machos who look after a beautiful woman while they themselves rave about Barack Obama's crisp buttocks; if they do not declare Schiller to be a softie because he wrote about women: "They plait and weave heavenly roses into earthly life"; and if they allow me to continue to find them fascinating and attractive.

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"Do not measure yourself against the success of others"

Max Riemelt, 25, actor, can be seen in “13 Semester” from January 7th

Don't ask questions that you don't want to hear honest answers to. Believe in yourself and do not measure yourself against the success of others. Don't look so grim on the road or while driving (this can leave nasty wrinkles). Don't be afraid to look after attractive men.

Only wear high heels if you can walk in them. Don't be so insistent on emancipation - men who haven't figured it out by now will never understand. Goes to the cinema more, for example in “13 Semester”. And my wish to my wife: nobody, I am perfectly happy.

Ralf Husmann, 45, television producer and screenwriter

The danger with wishes is that they will come true. It used to be said that women should have more understanding of our hobbies. Now the tiers in football stadiums are clogged with blondes, Nadine and Jessica speak “Good Fellas” by heart, and after having sex with two women you look into four disappointed eyes. That's why I have no wishes when it comes to women. Really. And you already have a sense of humor ...

Live the emancipation

Matthias Opdenhövel, 39, moderator

If only the pathological urge for doctor series could finally subside. Whenever I make myself a sandwich, I see an open aortic hemorrhage on TV, which is tied up by a semi-skilled assistant doctor. If you politely point out why the disgusting hustle and bustle is being watched, even though the GSG9 should be notified immediately when there are small spiders in the bathroom, the explanation is succinct, that is something completely different, it belongs to the story here!

Of course, women in Grey's Emergency Scrubs House are always waiting for their graying white coat, which lets its stethoscope dangle and does the examination a little more "thoroughly" than what patients are actually entitled to. But actually women are not really any different from us in this respect. I used to have a crush on Sister Christa from the Black Forest Clinic. But luckily I had always eaten there before.

Björn Böhning, 31, SPD politician

First, I want women not to bow their heads in front of bossy men. Second, that they reveal how you can eat so much chocolate without nausea. Thirdly, that we stop talking about the phenomenon of “women in leadership positions” and live emancipation. Fourth, more women and thus more empathy and charm in politics. Fifth, a day to read women's magazines to understand what my wife enjoys so much.

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